Monthly Archives: April 2014

Lightning Round – 2014/04/30

Stop caring what others think: be busy.

Growing out of the manosphere.
Related: The manosphere’s not dead, we’ve just outgrown it.

Shit tests: Why would you want to spend time with an unpleasant woman?

Turning pro.
Related: Matt Forney attains income independence.
Related: Making money living a balanced life.

Objective and subjective attraction.

The balance of love in marriage.

The difference between “family values” conservatives and feminists.

A study on divorce.

Ballista hangs up his hat.

Do women like cads because modern men look up to them?

If your wife is divorcing you, how to “win”: bankruptcy.

Related: Neoreaction is hipster.

Whistle-blowers and crony capitalism.

Vox explains how to survive a witchhunt.
Related: Enduring the social firing squad.

How to make someone crazy.

Rednecks are the new kulaks.

The American right is dead.
Related: A counterpoint.

Narcissists, genuine protesters, and how the Cathedral treats the two.

Duke University is here to correct out unrighteous language.

Massachusetts: spirit of America.

The past and insanity.

A rebuttal of ‘what is right about modernity’.

Moose Norseman is not a reactionary.

Little signs reality is sinking into the mainstream.

The death of the modern international system.

Bryce recommends getting Bitcoins.

Cultural collapse theory.

The mystery of fascism.

Jim advises the Jews.

SSC is becoming more anti-left.

When will the education/housing Ponzi scheme end?

Genetic basis for tonal language.

Mainstream Christianity and the destruction of the western peoples.

The heart of Catholicism.

Atheism is an assumption.
Related: Advice for those irritated by atheists.

On the Golden Rule.

Repetition, ritual, and beauty.

Stop teaching young Christians, start training them.

Freedom and tolerance.

Pope throws marriage under the bus.

Most Christian women put family as their highest priority above Jesus.

Christian women: feminism is not your friend.

Feminist fallout: McGinnis roll calls the regrets of women in his life.

Dutch women and happiness.

Advocating illegitimacy.
Related: The impacts of social engineering.

Women should be taught not to murder their babies.

There is no child, only herself.

BC selling aborted babies to Oregon to be burned for electricity.  Moloch is pleased.

Feminist bitches because feminists received exactly what they demanded for decades.

I love Slate’s hypocrisy; distributing freely given nudes is wrong, drawing others nude non-consensually is great.

Liberals are seeing their endgame come to fruition, and don’t care for it.

Weddings are not expensive, whims are.

Which sex is more responsible for divorce.

Reddit showing once again: do not marry a slut.

Women being set-up to fail.

Closing the military suicide gap.

The real unemployment rate: in 20% of families everyone is unemployed.
Related: Some links on depression 2.0.
Related: Canada now has highest after-tax middle-class income.

Neanderthals are people too.

Are even leftists getting sick of SJW antics.

British man arrested for quoting Churchill.
Related: Criticizing immigration made illegal in Sweden.

The manipulation of Chicago’s crime rate.

40 vets dead because of VA health system scheme.

Government amateur hour.

A corrective glossary.

Emotional intelligence is unpredictive.

The autumn people are politicizing the Hugos.
Related: Leftists are liars: SF edition.
Related: Wright resigns from the SFWA.
Related: USA Today picks up the Hugo controversy.
Related: Science fiction should not be political.
Related: The obstinate refusal of the lying left to attempt to reconcile.

The 2 worst arguments against homeschooling.
Related: It is a lie that homeschooled kids aren’t properly socialized.

Breastfeeding may not be as important as previously thought.

The ‘richness’ of e-books may be a negative for children.

On Donald Sterling.

Canada Robocalls: Remember the media are liars and the left are too.

H/T: SDA, Matt, RPR, Aaron, WK

The Bookshelf: Bachelor Pad Economics

Aaron Clarey has come out with a new book, Bachelor Pad Economics, in which he explains basic financial planning for young men. He wrote the book as a reference to be used when needed rather than reading it cover, I ignored this advice and read it cover-to-cover. It didn’t really hurt the book.

As usual, Clarey writes in a straightforward, but engaging manner. Despite the subject matter, it never becomes overly dry or dull. With this and Enjoy the Decline, Clarey has begun proof-reading his books, I didn’t notice any of the grammatical errors and sloppy editing that plagued his earlier books.

The book comes in at about 500 pages divided into 15 chapters covering all the aspects of basic financial planning you’d expect and some you wouldn’t. He covers the normal things like budgeting, career planning, and retirement planning, but he also goes beyond this into covering things like girls and family. I didn’t notice any important area of financial planning he missed; it look like he covered all the basics.

On the other hand, I knew most of the basics of financial planning and have read his other books (parts of Enjoy the Decline overlap with this book), so I didn’t get too much new information out of it, but the basics are good and worth repeating.

One thing I like about the book is it goes beyond just financial planning and establishes beforehand the reason you need to financially plan. Clarey makes the point it’s not stuff, but people that make life worth living and financial planning should be geared not towards accumulating more stuff for not reason, but towards creating a better life.

As with Clarey’s other books, there’s a stream of amoral hedonism throughout and he again advocates his Smith & Wesson retirement plan. So, some people might not particularly agree with morality of the book.

Recommendation:

This is a solid, engaging guide to financial planning for young men. If you’re a young man and need to get your financial house in order or don’t have a financial plan, I would heavily recommend getting Bachelor Pad Economics; it’s probably the most boredom-free way to get this kind of advice. It could also be useful to young women, but a lot of the advice might not be as applicable.

If you’re already knowledgeable of financial planning, this book won’t really impart much new. If you’re older, you might get some value out of it, but its market is primarily young men.

Previous Reviews of Clarey:

Enjoy the Decline
Top Shelf
Behind the Housing Crash
Worthless

The Recent Dustup

By now you’ve probably heard about the fight between SSM and her supporters and Lena and LGR and their supporters. If you haven’t my two most recent Lightning Rounds have the just of it. Other than posting the links, I’ve stayed out of it, and I still plan to. This is a catfight, why would any man involve himself in unrelated women’s conflicts?

I won’t take a side, but I will point a few things out:

1) To those Christians fighting this, what kind of witness are you being?

There are six things that the LORD hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers. (Proverbs 6:16-19 ESV)

Christians should be unified and avoid division. Rivalries, dissensions, and divisions are the fruits of the flesh. If you have grievances, keep it in the church and follow the biblically-established procedure for settling intra-church conflict. Our dirty laundry shouldn’t be aired for every non-Christian to see and mock.

How is any non-Christian in the manosphere/DE reading of this supposed to take Christians seriously if we engage in petty bickering over, what exactly?

I still have no idea what the actual issue at hand is.

2) This, as with most internet drama, is generally pointless and fruitless.

Has anybody taking sides in this mess actually met any of these people?

I’ve been reading SSM since her first blog, we’ve e-mailed once or twice concerning stuff on my blog; she seems nice, and in what she writes I’d say she’s right enough about 90% of the time. I’ve been reading LGR since her Salt blog and she also seems mostly on point. I don’t know much of Lena, but I did read 7Man’s blog before it went out a couple years back and I think she had something to do with that. I’ve been reading Matt since his IMF days; often disagree, but he’s entertaining and has a unique take on things.

But I’ve never met any of them. They could all be liars; they could all be saints. I don’t know and you don’t know. Matt’s sum total of evidence is anonymous commentary from anti-Christian, feminist nutjobs and a random obituary. The only particularly damning piece of evidence is SSM’s comment threatening to contact CPS, which SSM says was not written by her.

So, essentially, the entire debacle boils down to the words of anonymous commenters I’ve never met versus the words of a semi-anonymous commenter I’ve never met.

I’m sure further debate of this would be fruitful.

3) This demonstrates why women must be quarantined out of the manosphere. There can be no manosphere women, only women adjacent to the manosphere. If you let women be apart of a male space drama happens.

4) I am staying out of the SSM/Lena/LGR fight, but I will ask of Matt Forney, what the hell?

Other than the CPS threat, your entire article is based on the unsourced claims of feminist crazies. I know you’re a self-described troll, but really? What’s the point? Why get involved in women’s bickering? Especially when the evidence is so pathetic?

This seems to be a low-point for your blog.

So, y’all should stop your bickering.

Lightning Round -2014/04/23

Don’t overthink, get things done.
Related: Some productivity tips.

The bad bargain of modern marriage.
Related: An example of why to marry a responsible woman.

Divorce and first principles.

Wife goggles: one should have children as young as possible.

Stand firm, let them break upon the Rock, and receive your reward.
Related: Whatever it is, God allowed it.

Roissy analyzes Jesus’ social dynamics. A counterpoint.

What is worthwhile?

Christians should be unified, not engaged in infighting. Related. Related.
Related: One body.
Related: Jim comments on Matt Forney’s.
Related: SSM made public a temporary blog on the current issues.
Related: Comments defending SSM.
Related: LGR goes down.

The futility of online communities.

Tinder and dehumanization.

You need to be a traditionalist conservative.

The broken and lesser beings of our adversaries.

We’re all corrupt; let God sort it out.

Land usage rights under democracy and monarchy.

Why the minimum wage should be raised.
Related: Immigration is class warfare.
Related: County flags in England.
Related: Egalitarianism destroys labour markets.
Related: Denver hires illegal immigrants as “teachers”.

The white man’s burden and HBD.

Raising fertility.

Propaganda and war.

This is how it ends. We’re screwed.
Related: Mechanics of race hustling.

CNN lies on jihadis and the far right.

University death spiral.

An objectivist critique of Radish and racialism.
Related: Free speech and Eich.

Why democracy can’t tolerate free speech.

The progressives have conquered libertarianism.

On identitarian religion.

Religiosity and depression.

Religious sociopathy.

What’s your privilege? Mine’s 63: Quite privileged.

What real rape culture looks like.

The fallacy of the ‘toughest job in the world’.
Related: We shouldn’t compete over who has the hardest life.

Thought Catalog: The nice guy rebels.

Is the left co-opting the word ‘bullying’?

Humour: The unstoppable terrorist plan.

Fatherhood and unhappiness.
Related: NPR finds out that millennials have low social trust.

On the Turing test.

The decline of Disney.

Vox wonders if the media will go after Hollywood pedophiles as they did Catholic ones?

The science of successful learning.

Millions wasted a year on thrown out, government-funded, school lunches.

The war over SF continues.
Related: Correia and Day nominated for Hugos.

H/T: Bryce, VD

He is Risen

Jesus’ Side Is Pierced

Since it was the day of Preparation, and so that the bodies would not remain on the cross on the Sabbath (for that Sabbath was a high day), the Jews asked Pilate that their legs might be broken and that they might be taken away. So the soldiers came and broke the legs of the first, and of the other who had been crucified with him. But when they came to Jesus and saw that he was already dead, they did not break his legs. But one of the soldiers pierced his side with a spear, and at once there came out blood and water. He who saw it has borne witness—his testimony is true, and he knows that he is telling the truth—that you also may believe. For these things took place that the Scripture might be fulfilled: “Not one of his bones will be broken.” And again another Scripture says, “They will look on him whom they have pierced.”

Jesus Is Buried

After these things Joseph of Arimathea, who was a disciple of Jesus, but secretly for fear of the Jews, asked Pilate that he might take away the body of Jesus, and Pilate gave him permission. So he came and took away his body. Nicodemus also, who earlier had come to Jesus by night, came bringing a mixture of myrrh and aloes, about seventy-five pounds in weight. So they took the body of Jesus and bound it in linen cloths with the spices, as is the burial custom of the Jews. Now in the place where he was crucified there was a garden, and in the garden a new tomb in which no one had yet been laid. So because of the Jewish day of Preparation, since the tomb was close at hand, they laid Jesus there.

The Resurrection

Now on the first day of the week Mary Magdalene came to the tomb early, while it was still dark, and saw that the stone had been taken away from the tomb. So she ran and went to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one whom Jesus loved, and said to them, “They have taken the Lord out of the tomb, and we do not know where they have laid him.” So Peter went out with the other disciple, and they were going toward the tomb. Both of them were running together, but the other disciple outran Peter and reached the tomb first. And stooping to look in, he saw the linen cloths lying there, but he did not go in. Then Simon Peter came, following him, and went into the tomb. He saw the linen cloths lying there, and the face cloth, which had been on Jesus’ head, not lying with the linen cloths but folded up in a place by itself. Then the other disciple, who had reached the tomb first, also went in, and he saw and believed; for as yet they did not understand the Scripture, that he must rise from the dead. Then the disciples went back to their homes.

Jesus Appears to Mary Magdalene

But Mary stood weeping outside the tomb, and as she wept she stooped to look into the tomb. And she saw two angels in white, sitting where the body of Jesus had lain, one at the head and one at the feet. They said to her, “Woman, why are you weeping?” She said to them, “They have taken away my Lord, and I do not know where they have laid him.” Having said this, she turned around and saw Jesus standing, but she did not know that it was Jesus. Jesus said to her, “Woman, why are you weeping? Whom are you seeking?” Supposing him to be the gardener, she said to him, “Sir, if you have carried him away, tell me where you have laid him, and I will take him away.” Jesus said to her, “Mary.” She turned and said to him in Aramaic, “Rabboni!” (which means Teacher). Jesus said to her, “Do not cling to me, for I have not yet ascended to the Father; but go to my brothers and say to them, ‘I am ascending to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.’” Mary Magdalene went and announced to the disciples, “I have seen the Lord”—and that he had said these things to her.

Jesus Appears to the Disciples

On the evening of that day, the first day of the week, the doors being locked where the disciples were for fear of the Jews, Jesus came and stood among them and said to them, “Peace be with you.” When he had said this, he showed them his hands and his side. Then the disciples were glad when they saw the Lord. Jesus said to them again, “Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, even so I am sending you.” And when he had said this, he breathed on them and said to them, “Receive the Holy Spirit. If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you withhold forgiveness from any, it is withheld.”

(John 19:31-42, 20::1-23 ESV)

Not Dead Yet

Both D&P and Matt are distancing themselves from the manosphere. I’m not going to bother with Matt’s criticisms, which focus on two particular bloggers, other than to say, why would a man get in the middle of a cat fight? But I would like to comment on two of the reasons Mike cites, not out of disagreement, but because it provides a springboard for my thoughts.

Secondly, there are too many frauds in the manosphere to count.

There are probably frauds in the manosphere, as in any other internet community. For reasons I don’t understand, some people like to lie to strangers on the internet.

But I think another problem is people thinking bloggers have some kind of great insight on what they write about, when they probably aren’t. “Authorities” on subjects usually have better distribution channels than small blogs in marginal internet communities.

Since the beginning, I’ve tried to be as honest as possible about myself (of course, everyone’s self-image departs from reality to some degree, although, I try to be as objective as possible regarding myself), but even so, I do still try to paint myself in the best light the truth will allow. This blog started as a self-improvement blog because I was an unhappy loser; I still struggle with self-improvement, but it has since moved on to other topics, because if it didn’t this blog would simply become a log of my progress on squats.

My blog is mostly me figuring things out for myself or sharing ideas I’ve thought of.

I’m use it’s the same for many in the manosphere, or elsewhere.

In some cases, the perception of fraud could just be some people attributing more authority to a person than they’d claim for themselves.

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Third, there are too many articles complaining about feminism.

This complaint and the related complaint of “everybody keeps rehashing the same things” are frequent around the manosphere.

We’ll deal with the latter first: the manosphere is primarily about self-improvement, but there is only so much you can say about self-improvement. How many different ways can you repeat buy Starting Strength and start lifting, eat better, and don’t be a pussy. At some point there’s simply nothing more to say that hasn’t already been said.

The manosphere’s well past the point of diminishing returns. Everything that needs to be said, has probably been said by someone else already. Each individual blogger is going to reach the point where they’ve shared all the knowledge of self-improvement they have.I most of my practical advice into a series of a dozen posts. Now, I’m sure I’ll probably be able to add small things in the future, but I’ve mostly blown my wad in that area.

After that point, it’s mostly repetition, but that doesn’t matter. The hard part of self-improvement has never been knowing what to do, everybody knows what to do: eat better, exercise, read more and better material, get some hobbies, and nut up and talk to that girl. Every blue-pill beta, every omega, knows they should do that. The problem isn’t knowing what to do, it’s doing it.

The repetition is necessary, because it motivates. I read the manosphere for a year and half before I started to life. I heard the message to lift uncountable times; but it wasn’t until the uncountable+1 times I read it that I actually got down to it and lifted.

All this repetition is needed more for encouragement and drive than for the actual knowledge itself.

In addition, new people are always cycling in and out of the manosphere. New people need to hear the basics just as much as those who’ve been here; what’s a repetition for some, may be new information for others.

As for the attacks on feminism, the answer is the same: you might have seen dozens of arguments concerning feminism, solipsism, the feminine imperative, hypergamy, and so on, but for most people, soft feminism is in everything they do and see; they have not been exposed to alternatives to it. People new to the manosphere need to discover these things as well.

Not to mention, that if we want to accomplish something for society rather than just getting our own, a sustained attack on false ideologies is necessary. We need to keep building our ideas, not just ourselves.

As well, sometimes you just need to vent and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Lightning Round – 2014/04/16

Nick gives advice on marital sex.

What aren’t you doing?

Things that may be holding you back.

Rollo finishes his 4-part series on preventative medicine: 1, 2, 3, & 4.

Control your micro-environment.
Related: Enjoy the decline: Aaron as a modern Sisyphus.
Related: Francis’ thoughts on enjoying the decline: 1 & 2.

Lessons from the Iliad.

Everything is spiritual.

Some advice on what to take in university.

Matt attacks SSM and Danny. I hate internet drama because everything is based on non-verifiable anonymous comments. Also, why is Matt, or any man, involving themselves in a catfight?
Related: D&P is disassociating from the manosphere.

101 things I will teach my son so he will be a man, not a pussy.

Why Great Britain is filled with douchebags.
Related: Women rolling back the odometer in Tunisia.

Against critical thinking; taboos exist to give wisdom to the cognitively weak.
Related: Critical thinking is a specialized skill not made for everyone.
Related: Incurable STD’s and the Gods of the Copybook Headings.

Escalation: a response to my previous post.
Related: Another response and another.

Finding virtue in a rotted age.

Thoughts on r/K selection.

The psychic undercurrent.

In favour of the gender wage gap.
Related: Just another refutation of the wage gap and another. Maybe reality will sink in at some point.

Community building thoughts.

White men vote Republican because they’re suckers.

Diversity: Everybody looking different but thinking the same.
Related: White privilege: crazy and evil.

Jim’s thoughts on transsexuals.

The dishonesty of progressive institutions pretending not to be.
Related: The purpose of welfare programs.

Maidan is astroturf; Ukrainian rebels are not.

How the Obamacare website debacle came about.

SSM finds a good Christian book on female erotica.

On modesty.

Mutual submission in practice.

Feminist evangelicals celebrate their heresies.

A reminder of the evil influence of feminism.
Related: The civilization:womanization graph.

The empty cultural appropriations of the irreligious woman.

Feminism and the parallels of modern society and Saudi Arabia.

University of California requires mandatory trigger warnings.

The cost Is never too high when someone else is bearing it for older choice mommies.
Related: Women replacing babies with dogs.

18 ugly truths of modern dating.
Related: 5 dating conventions that women killed.

We need to teach boys not to shoot up schools. Heh…

The 1987 essay by gays on how to ideologically conquer America.

Humour: Cracked on nature vs. nurture.
Related: Infant IQ’s predict future test scores.

Humour: The Renaissance wasn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

On testosterone and heart attacks.

Why Game of Thrones makes a good history lesson.

The waste of not having the XL pipeline.

The abuse lottery of public school.

More info on the Mounties’ High River gun confiscation.

A few things you shouldn’t say on tax day.

Swords for SHTF? Nope.

Nerds will rule the world.

Are liberals beginning to clue in to the fact that diversity + proximity = war?

Yale forces thin woman to eat more and fatten up.

Matt reviews Dominate. Sounds interesting.

(H/T: RPR, Tam)