Monthly Archives: September 2013

Omega’s Guide – Presentation

If you’ve been following this guide, you’ve taken numerous steps to improve your inner and outer self. Now it’s time to work on your presentation.

No matter how smart, socially aware, outgoing, physically capable, or interesting you are, people will dismiss you if you look like a sloppy mess or stink. You need to present yourself well in the world to fit into social situations. We’ll concentrate on two things here: grooming and dress.

There’s all kinds of things about adopting your own style, standing out from the crowd, etc. that you could follow, but that’s not what we’re going for here. This is just to help you not look like a slob and to look decently acceptable to polite society. We’re trying to make it so normal people aren’t negatively judging you for your appearance.  As such, these are very basic tips. If you’re looking to establish your own style or for something more advanced, check out Masculine Style. He’s far more qualified to help you than I am.

Clothes/Accessories

– If you don’t understand fit, colour, matching, style, etc. get someone to help you pick out clothes. Most good men’s stores will have knowledgeable staff or get one of your female relatives/friends (not your mother) to help you shop (or a stylish male friend if you have one). Don’t try buying clothes, shoes, or other accessories by yourself until you understand what works for you.

– Dress appropriately for the occasion. A casual night at a friend’s house is different from work which is different from an office party which is different from a formal event. If you overdress, you’ll look like a try-hard or a jerk, if you underdress you’ll look lazy and sloppy. At this point, when going out try to dress to fit into the group; look at what most other people are wearing and emulate it. Later on, once you understand style more, you’ll want to get your own style to stand out, but for now, standing out will likely mean you’ll look like a misfit. Dress to fit in.

– Shop at a quality men’s shop. Avoid Walmart, Sears, Target, etc. for anything except for jeans, runners, socks, underwear, and casual t-shirts. I generally use Tip Top Tailors, but it’s a Canadian chain, so if you’re from the states you’ll have to find something else.

– Fit is the single most important aspect of dress. Make sure your clothes fit. If they’re too baggy it will just look sloppy or you’ll look like an idiot, wanne-be gangster, if they’re too tight you’ll look like a effeminate emo. Get clothes that fit comfortably and well. Ask the staff if you’re not sure if the fit is good.

– Find out what colours look good on you and try to get clothes in that colour. Get a female friend/relative to help you with this.

– Do not wear worn out clothes. If your clothes have holes or stains, stop wearing them immediately and replace them. I know you may like that particular shirt, but it’s paid its dues, let it go.

– T-shirts are fine for casual situations with friends or running errands but avoid shirts with offensive slogans, stupid or nerdy jokes, movie references, long chunks of writing, or other things that might be inappropriate or dorky. If you can find it on Snorg Tees or a similar site, avoid it. A plain, solid colour t-shirt, with a respectable, moderate logo, or one with your favourite band logo (assuming its not Cannibal Corpse) are good. Also, make sure the t-shirt is not overly baggy or overly tight (unless you’re very fit).

– Wearing polo shirts is a good step up from the t-shirt. For anything that is not hanging out with friends, wear a polo shirt, at minimum. Do not tuck your polo shirt in, you’ll look like a nerd. Wearing a button-up shirt (or button-up t-shirt) with jeans (not tucked in) is another step up for a good casual-plus look.

– For business casual, dress khakis and a button-up shirt work well. You can tuck it in or not depending on what those around you do. Wearing black dress pants and a button-up shirt, untucked, can also work well.

– For business, a button-up shirt and and black dress pants is the minimum. If everybody else is wearing a suit, make sure you’re wearing one as well.

– Wear a suit for formal.

– If you’re wearing a button-up shirt or polo shirt, undo the top button (unless wearing a tie). Buttoning the top button looks dorky.

– A good pair of well-fitting blue jeans works for most situation where you don’t have to dress up. Make sure the jeans are a solid dark blue. Acid-washed and light jeans look immature. Do not tuck shirts into your jeans.

– Shorts are for sports and the outdoors. Do not wear short indoors, it looks dorky.

– Don’t wear sweat pants or track pants except for sports in cold weather.

– Don’t wear black pants with a black shirt. You may think you look dark and edgy, but you don’t, you look depressed and it looks horrible. If you wear black pants, wear a lighter shirt, and vice versa.

– Get a nice, solid-colour, black leather belt. Wear it always.

– For shoes, a good pair of non-descript solid black runners in good shape will work for most casual situations. Once they become worn replace them immediately; don’t wear shoes with holes or that are otherwise falling apart. Also, get a pair of moderate black dress shoes for work and non-casual situations. If you are dressing up or need to go to a formal event get a pair of better dress shoes.

– Sandals are for the beach, leave them there. Don’t wear socks with sandals.

– If you need glasses, get frames that complement your face or contacts. (I highly recommend contacts; I have never regretted switching to contacts, they are so much mroe comfortable). Do not go around wearing your five-year-old bent, taped up frames or glasses that make you look dorky.

– Don’t wear a hat. Hats (other than ballcaps) require a certain panache to pull off; if you don’t have it, you’ll just look silly. (There’s a reason people make fun of nerds wearing fedoras). I know it’s tempting to attempt to look suave, but you have to be suave first. Put off the hat until you can actually pull it off.  Exception – When doing outdoor activities wearing a ball cap or, in winter, a toque, is acceptable; avoid wearing them in other situations though.

– Wear plain, solid black socks. You can not go wrong with plain black socks. Do not wear other sock colours until you have a style of your own where they work well (ie. not yet). When dressing up, wear dress socks. If your socks get holes, replace them immediately.

– Don’t wear a watch. A good, stylish watch can enhance a look; your black digital watch makes you look like a dork. Until you have a good personal style, avoid wearing a watch, it’s unnecessary (you probably have a cell phone) and it will likely look bad on you.

– Avoid jewellery, piercings, or other accessories. Occasionally, these may enhance particular looks, most of the time these look stupid. Avoid them until you have your own personal style that requires them.

Grooming

– Shower, shampoo, and soap every morning and after every time you’ve been doing physical activity that makes you sweaty (if you are going to be around people afterwards). You don’t want to look dirty or smell rancid.

– Use deodorant or antiperspirant every single day; every morning after your shower, put it on. Try something with a fairly mild, neutral scent; Regular or Irish Spring are good. Get a stick, avoid spray-on, and definitely avoid Axe. You do not want to smell bad, it will repel people, and you also don’t want them to be able to consciously smell your deodorant.

– Brush your teeth. In the mornings brush your teeth after breakfast (or after your shower if you don’t eat breakfast). You don’t want your breath to smell.

– Go to a barber (not a stylist) and get a good haircut, preferably short and masculine, but it’s up to you as long as it looks good on you. If you don’t know what a good haircut looks like, ask the barber to just cut it short however he thinks would look good (a stylist will likely not understand ‘cut it short’ and will either require you choose a hairstyle, explain more thoroughly, or screw it up). Get a haircut every three months at most; preferably every month. Do not go half a year without getting one. After the haircut, ask you sister, female cousin, or female friend for brutally honest advice (your mom probably won’t be brutal enough and don’t ask your girlfriend for approval or she’ll take it as license to meddle); if they approve and you like it keep it. Otherwise, experiment again the next time.

– Make sure you know how to comb/style your hair properly and do so every morning. A short haircut takes less work and may not even require much or any combing/styling, that’s why I recommend it.

– Shave regularly. Shave every two days at most (depending on how fast your facial hair grows). A grizzled look can be good, but again, that’s something that should wait until you understand style enough to pull it off.

– Do not grow a mustache; mustaches can look cool, if done right with the right sense of style. You are probably not doing it right, so you probably look creepy, dorky, like a hipster, or like you’re trying too hard. If you have a mustache, shave it off; once you have our own sense of style, you can grow one to match it.

– If you have a beard maintain it. Don’t just let it grow wild and uncontrollably, make sure it looks kempt. If you can’t/won’t put the effort into maintaining it, shave it off.

– Wash your hands after you piss. I’d think this would be obvious, but I see far too many men in pubcli washrooms who don’t. C’mon, really?

Essentially, wear clothes that fit and are situationally appropriate and keep yourself well-groomed. You might not look amazing, but you will look acceptable. People won’t judge you negatively for your dress and grooming and, for now, that’s a great starting place.

Your Goal:

This week your goal is to purchase all the necessary grooming equipment you don’t have and to buy yourself some decent clothes. Start grooming each morning and dressing appropriately.

An Example not to Follow

The above came courtesy of Roissy’s twitter feed.

I’ve been a bit busy lately, but here’s a short comment on the video.

Obviously the girl’s an adulteress and tries her best to reframe it as his fault, but nothing more needs to be said about that. We’ll focus on the guy.

He’s obviously geeky-looking, desperate, and weak.

He gets up some spine there at the beginning, than at about 1:15, you can hear his balls completely dissolve. What little self-respect he displays disappears when she phones his mother and he almost cries. He later does break down and cry, while wondering how she could possibly say he’s not man enough. Not everybody has self-awareness. He tried to to humiliate his wife and was himself humiliated.

Obviously, don’t be this guy.

He has two main problems that far exceed his generally dorkiness and from which his desperation and weakness flow.

His repeated refrain “I changed my life for you,” “I gave everything for you,” etc. He says this repeatedly, like she should be grateful.

Men need to know that just because you do something for a woman does not mean she will be grateful, it certainly does not mean she will be attracted to you. You could spend a year literally taking care of her while she’s bedridden, nearly dead, in the hospital and she will still have no gratitude and paint you as a creeper.

A woman does not want you to change for her, she does not want you to give up everything for her, whatever she may say. If you do, do not expect gratitude; she will probably despise you for it.

Be a man; stick to your mission. Girls are nice, but they are not the goal.

His second problem is his mental slavery to the approval of the women in his life. You can hear him absolutely shatter emotionally when she calls his mother. Throughout, he remains mostly calm, if very desperate and a bit angry, but you can hear in his voice that the core of his emotional world being sundered when the women phones his mom. At the end, the fact that she called his mom takes precedence over her calling him weak.

Throughout the video, even as he catches her red-handed cheating on him, he still is desperate for her approval. She leaves, he chases after her. Throughout he remains desperate for the approval of this adulteress.

Do not seek the approval of a woman, any woman. It is nice to have your mother, your wife, your girlfriend think highly of you, but that should not be your goal. It will lead to being a snivelling wreck of a “man” like him.

Two lessons: Do not change everything for your woman and do not seek the approval of women.

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Side note, the fat homosexual makes this video worthwhile all on his own. Hilarious. (Although, he sounds like he might be mentally handicapped, which almost makes me feel guilty).

Lightning Round – 2013/09/25

Laidnyc has a free e-book and wants you to help his dog.
Related: Dogs are awesome.

Victor Pride with advice for the entrepreneur.

Be inscrutable.

Have an abundance mentality.

I, Me, Mine. Men need responsibility and something of their own.

34 insight from Nassim Taleb.

Self-esteem is narcissism for losers and slaves.
Related: You’re lonely because you’re sincere.

Thumotic on testosterone replacement therapy.

Men determine what is beautiful in women.
Related: Empirical observations of weight negatively effecting attractiveness.
Related: Why there will always be a sexual double standard.

Ignore the socialist clap-trap; there is a good lesson here for young women.
Related: The effects of the wall laid out plain.
Related: The wall, in fast forward.
Related: Facebook and walls.

A few things on tattoos.

Single mother households have tripled? Astonishing!

It’s all lies.

Commitment hobbles men.
Related: The decline of man.

A nation of crybabies.

In-depth on the neg.

Florence Nightingale on female sympathy.

Radical feminists vs. lifeboat feminists.

The campus rape myth.

This comic hurts my brain.

Thoughts on morality, nihilism, and Christianity. A must read.

The internet argument checklist for liberals
Related: A little hamster appeared in my comments on my n-count post.

The thugs of the Cathedral.

Amos & Gromar destroy a piece of pseudo-philosophy.

I ended up on GMP’s site and has it ever gotten limp-wristed.

The increasing desire to “get fired and collect unemployment.”

The empirical claims of neoreaction.

Pax AMA. He is a neoreactionary and is familiar with Moldbug.
Related: CNN: Heresy could result in shunning.
Related: Anil Dash is a coward, a liar, and a bully.

Do American Christians care about Syrian Christians? Given the American support for the rebels intent on killing them I doubt it.
Related: Something sensible on Syria.
Related: The sham of democracy.

Decivilization in Detroit.

A Canadian example of the regulatory state in action.

Unions will be the next slavery.
Related: Unions are evil.

Progressives: solving the problems of those who have none.

The decline of a civilization begins in a decline of its people. We’re doomed.

Man panics over concealed carry, gets charged. Hehe.

Roissy outdoes himself in the immorality game.

Rand won the battle in the church between Jesus and Rand.

The Pope: Pastoral care over doctrine.
Related: Seems the media has been misinterpreting the Pope.
Related: Others think the pope is surrendering.
Related: Doesn’t matter, the Catholic universities will doom the church.
Related: Maybe it’s not so bad.

7 times as much sexual misconduct happens in the California public schools as it did in the Catholic Church.

The insanity of preventing military from carrying guns.

Facebook is child rape.

Science: Could you have multiple different personal genomes?

David Suzuki a know-nothing phony.

Obamacare in two charts.

Dutch king kills the welfare state, starts participation society.

The red state welfare claim is a lie.

I am becoming more ambivalent about vaccines the more pro-vaxxers talk. Also, why do totalitarians pretend they are libertarian?

Scientists told to cover up the fact the earth hasn’t warmed in 15 years.

Why you can never trust liberals: “the overwhelming majority of food stamp recipients are white… USDA data show that in 2011, 37 percent of food stamp users (pdf) were from white, non-Hispanic households.”

Romney becomes an adoptive grandfather of black child. Left reacts predictably.

Is addiction rational?

Stats on women in the military.

(H/T: SDA, Borepatch, Instapundit, Vulture, Zippy, CC, GLP,

Hymn to Physical Pain

I haven’t had time to make the next post in the Omega’s Guide series, so here’s some Kipling instead, because it’s always a good time for Kipling:

Dread Mother of Forgetfulness
Who, when Thy reign begins,
Wipest away the Soul’s distress,
And memory of her sins.

The trusty Worm that dieth not–
The steadfast Fire also,
By Thy contrivance are forgot
In a completer woe.

Thine are the lidless eyes of night
That stare upon our tears,
Through certain hours which in our sight
Exceed a thousand years:

Thine is the thickness of the Dark
That presses in our pain,
As Thine the Dawn that bids us mark
Life’s grinning face again.

Thine is the weariness outworn
No promise shall relieve,
That says at eve, “Would God ’twere morn”
At morn, “Would God ’twere eve!”

And when Thy tender mercies cease
And life unvexed is due,
Instant upon the false release
The Worm and Fire renew.

Wherefore we praise Thee in the deep,
And on our beds we pray
For Thy return that Thou may’st keep
The Pains of Hell at bay!

Metal Moment – Grave Digger

I’ve been busy with things this week, so I don’t have a real post today. Enjoy some Grave Digger, a band that’s been producing solid heavy metal for 3 decades now.

First up, for all the neoreactionaries and Scots, comes the classic  Jacobite song, Rebellion (the Clans are Marching):

For the neo-pagans out there comes a newer song, Valhalla:

For the Brits and Christians, Excalibur:

Finally,  for the sappier readers, a power ballad from one of their more recent albums, When Rain Turns to Blood:

Lightning Round – 2013/09/18

I’ve decided to try to be cool by joining the Twitter.  Check it out for whatever ideas I have that aren’t blog-length.  If you don’t follow me, you’ll miss out on lovely gems like this:

When men hoist the pirate flag.
Related: If no men showed up for work.

Turn laziness into accomplishment.

The Red Pill in Business Insider. It’s actually more balanced than I expected.

Why Gen-Y yuppies are unhappy.
Related: Feminism is causing the depression epidemic.
Related: Against female self-esteem.
Related: You are unhappy because you are free.

Malcolm’s lament: weakness is not goodness.

Creepiness and our unnatural social relations.

Science: The neg works.
Science: The appeal of male dominance.

The art of approach.

Don’t cram; enjoy the process.

DP explains game.
Related: The law of night game: have fun.

A note on frame control.

Girl game tip: be available.

Moldbug returns to analyze the Brown Scare.
Related: Frost on Pax Dickinson.
Related: CR talks to Pax about his new business venture. Found here.
Related: Is Pax a reactionary? His twitter feed shows a lot of red pill; he even links Alternative Right and Roissy, and retweets gyus like Frost, Stratton, Anarcho-Papist, and Anissimov.
Related: Capitalism is dead in the US.
Related: Pax Dickenson, public shaming, and the internet.
Related: State and race-baiters try to confiscate dead man’s estate.

32 facts about the systematic emasculation of American men.

Wright with an excellent piece on political correctness.

How to defeat NYC media liberals.

Calling liberals racist.
Related: Real men aren’t socialists.

“Christian discipline isn’t saying no to your desires, it’s figuring out what they really are and learning how to make them come to life.”

Cane: Game is like a toolbox after all.

Red pill alerts.
Related: Something to watch for when considering marriage.

When God asks too much.
SSM deals with the “what if my husband wants me to sin?” trope.

I agree in theory that the man away from home at work is not optimal, but other than self-employment/homesteading off the grid, how is this possible? Somebody has to earn and not everybody can do those two.

Examining the natural aristocracy.

The need for loyalty oaths.

Friendship and HBD.

Those that disarm you are trying to kill you. Never forget.

The conformity of diversity and introversion.

How to make school better for boys.

Feminist Hanna Rosin: The patriarchy is dead. There’s a lot of red pill in the comments.

It’s time for women to women up.

Feminism is about “respect”.

Women, justice, and lenient sentencing.

6 reasons not to send your daughter to college. The comments are funny; they actually think you learn critical thinking at college.
Related: Evidence supporting why men don’t like “intelligent” women.

I wonder what Jezebel’s opinion on fat women that take up 1.5 seats is?

NFP and contraception.

Pope: You don’t have to believe in God to go to heaven. A mistranslation possibly?

How to fight being forced into immorality by the law.

Corporations demand cheap labour to replace the people they laid off.
Related: Government stupidity on criminal immigrants.

Economist: The US is broke; the fiscal gap is $200 trillion.

Obamacare intrudes into your sexual life. Wonder if this will rile the feminists?Obama openly aiding Muslim terrorists.

Nearly half of US births covered by Medicaid. Dysgenics in action.

Obamacare intrudes into your sexual life. Wonder if this will rile the feminists?
Related: Union: Obamacare must be appealed.

Fatter people have smaller brains.

How the academy has ruined science.
Related: Global warming models were wrong. Surprising.

Which is worse: chem weapons or sawing a man’s head off?
Related: German intelligence intercepts: Assad rejected use of chemical weapons.

Using BJJ against a bully. A heart-warming story.

A reminder: the lesser Krugman is still ignorant.
Related: Krugman, sneering while wrong.

Humour: The weirdest things we’ve learned since 9/11.

Sometimes liberal racism is more openly shared:

(H/T: Foseti, CC, SDA, MF, IP

Backsliding and Failure

Today, I am here to talk of failure, my own. I’ve been backsliding these last few months.

For a year there I was on the way up, I was approaching women and I thought I was good with it. I was definitely not an approach machine, but I was never trying to be. The occasional approach when a likely prospect comes up and a date every couple months is good enough for me and is all I’m trying to accomplish and I was doing it. Compared to the time prior where I never approached and had a grand total of 0 dates in 3 years, it’s a vast improvement

But these last two months I’ve been backsliding; I’ve been letting good opportunities pass me by. (On the positive, I did go out with a nice feminine girl from my sports team a few weeks back).

One that stands out is from a couple of weeks ago, there was a very cute girl who visited my church with her family. After the service, she dropped a number of shy smiles my way. I knew her father from way back and talked with him some, she was standing right there. I did not so much as say hi to her. I rationalized it to myself that she was too young (most likely she was 18) and her father was right there; but being honest with myself, I just chickened out.

But my slacking in this was hammered home just a couple days ago. In the morning I was on the bus, an attractive blonde sat next to me. I desired to talk to her, but over-thought for far too long. I took of my earphones to start a conversation, but then simply froze in over-thinking. Then kept over-thinking, until she got off a few stops before mine.

In the evening it got even worse. I stopped at McDonald’s and was served by a cute brunette. While waiting for my food, she started chatting me up (I was the only person at the counter). We chatted for a bit, and I held my end up fairly well, but then, I wussed out in getting her number. While walking out I kept telling myself I should get her number, but I just kept walking.

I’m not writing this because any of it is particularly interesting; I’m recognizing my failure here in the hopes it will spur me to try harder in the future, so I can recognize triumphs here instead. I need to put more work into approaching if I want to find a wife.