I’ve been occasionally approaching when conditions are right over time, but today I probably pulled the most alpha approach I ever have, and I felt like sharing with somebody who wasn’t there, so here it is. The experienced alphas may not find it all that impressive, but for a former omega like me, this is amazing.
Anyhow, I was out for coffee with a friend and we were discussing my life mission and my general apathy. We were discussing how I should start to ‘just do it’ to meet girls so I can find my wife. He told me to overcome my apathy. So I hesitated, took a drink, hesitated, took a drink, then I overcome my apathy.
There were a few girls sitting together nearby, one of whom was really cute. Earlier I had overheard them talk about something related to church, so I moved.
I walked over cool as ice and just sat down with them. After sitting, began with absolute self-confidence, “Hi, I’m Free Northerner. What’re your names?”
Firm handshakes and each introduces themselves to me.
“I think you’re cute and wanted to meet you.”
Girl: “Thank you.” [smiles].
Girl’s friend: “She gets that a lot. She’s always telling us how she’s always cute, never hot.”
“That’s good. Cute’s better than hot. Take it from me.”
“I overheard you discussing [denomination]? Are you a Christian?”
Friend: “You heard that. I could tell; I keep track of things like that.”
“Sound tends to travel in this place.”
Girl: “Yes. I go to [church].”
Friend: “Where do you go?”
Friend: “Where’s that?”
“Can I get your phone number?” Take out phone; hand it to her.
“Sure.” She puts it in phone. “Your phone’s old I got it wrong and put it in twice. I can’t find the back button.”
Take phone. “Yeah, I I don’t really keep up on phone technology. Your number was ####? You name was [girl], right?”
“Yeah.” Finish adding number.
“I’m phoning you. Now you have my number.”
She checks phone. [Not a fake #.]
“I’ll phone you in a while and set up coffee. Good to meet y’all.”
Handshakes to all. Girl occasionally giggling and smiling throughout. Walk back to my friend. Get on jacket, leave shop. Friend is amazed at how alpha I was.
There was a bit more to it, and she talked a bit more, but that’s the jist of it.
About 5 minutes from start to finish. All done the half-smirk/half-smile I often wear; full-tilt, absolute confidence. No hesitation, no stumbling, no hemming and hawing; straightforward and to the point. Controlled the conversation, controlled the frame, never veered off. Direct game, no manipulative BS.
I feel alpha.