The book has many warnings against falling for the wrong woman (or the prostitute):
A foolish son is ruin to his father,
and a wife’s quarreling is a continual dripping of rain. (19:13)*
It is better to live in a corner of the housetop
than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. (21:9)
It is better to live in a desert land
than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman. (21:19)
A continual dripping on a rainy day
and a quarrelsome wife are alike;
to restrain her is to restrain the wind
or to grasp oil in one’s right hand. (27:15-16)
For a prostitute is a deep pit;
an adulteress is a narrow well.
She lies in wait like a robber
and increases the traitors among mankind. (23:27-28)
He who loves wisdom makes his father glad,
but a companion of prostitutes squanders his wealth. (29:3)
Choosing the wrong women, or letting her control your life is a nightmare. If nothing else sinks in, know that you have to be very careful choosing the women you allow into your life.
Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout
is a beautiful woman without discretion. (11:22)
Remember, beauty is nice, but it is not the only thing. Don’t let the wrong women control you with her looks and charm.
On the other hand, women aren’t completely bad. A good wife is a prize:
He who finds a wife finds a good thing
and obtains favor from the Lord.(18:22)
An excellent wife is the crown of her husband,
but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones. (12:4)
The wisest of women builds her house,
but folly with her own hands tears it down. (14:1)
So choose a good one. She will bring you honour and joy and she will build your house. Choose a wife for yourself that will do this.
For women who might be reading this, be wise, build your home up, don’t tear it down.
In the fear of the Lord one has strong confidence,
and his children will have refuge.(14:26)
The wise man is confident; confidence is key. Preferably you’d gain it from God, but even if you’re not religious, gain it anyway.
On the other hand:
Everyone who is arrogant in heart is ran abomination to the Lord;
be assured, he will not go unpunished. (16:5)
Pride goes before destruction,
and a haughty spirit before a fall. (16:18)
Before destruction a man’s heart is haughty,
but humility comes before honor. (18:12)
Haughty eyes and a proud heart,
the lamp of the wicked, are sin. (21:4)
The reward for humility and fear of the Lord
is riches and honor and life. (22:4)
Arrogance and haughty pride will lead to your destruction. There is a difference between arrogance and confidence: the latter will build you up, the former will destroy you.
Know the difference.
Related to that:
Do not boast about tomorrow,
for you do not know what a day may bring.
Let another praise you, and not your own mouth;
a stranger, and not your own lips. (27:1-2)
Don’t boast, let others boast for you. Have enough honour that others will demonstrate fitness for you. Pre-selection is good.
The vexation of a fool is known at once,
but the prudent ignores an insult. (12:16)
A hot-tempered man stirs up strife,
but he who is slow to anger quiets contention. (15:18)
Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty,
and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city. (16:32)
Good sense makes one slow to anger,
and it is his glory to overlook an offense. (19:11)
Whoever restrains his words has knowledge,
and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding.
Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise;
when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.(17:27-28)
A fool gives full vent to his spirit,
but a wise man quietly holds it back. (29:11)
Keep your frame. A wise man does not allow others to control his emotional state. He remains in control of himself at all times.
Control your frame. Demonstrate self-mastery.
The glory of young men is their strength,
but the splendor of old men is their gray hair. (20:29)
Young men, be strong for to gain honour.
The wise of heart is called discerning,
and sweetness of speech increases persuasiveness. (16:21)
Be judicious and learn to be persuasive.
Desire without knowledge is not good,
and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way. (19:2)
Be judicious. Demonstrate wisdom, knowledge, and mastery over yourself.
Be not among drunkards
or among gluttonous eaters of meat,
for the drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty,
and slumber will clothe them with rags. (23:20-21)
God would probably not approve overly much of night game though.
Hope deferred makes the heart sick,
but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life. (13:12)
A man does not hope, he takes action to fulfill his desire.
Better is open rebuke
than hidden love.(27:5)
Whoever rebukes a man will afterward find more favor
than he who flatters with his tongue. (28:23)
A man does not slander or flatter. He should honest and straight-forward in his criticism.
I’m going to end today’s post with what should be the motto of the manosphere:
Iron sharpens iron,
and one man sharpens another. (27:17)
Men need to interact with other men to better themselves. This is what the manosphere exists for: for men to better themselves.
Also, outside the manosphere, start your own gang so you can work to improve yourselves.
* All references from Proverbs, ESV translation.