Repost: Patriarchy: Restraining Males

In light of the Isla Vista massacre, I bring an old post of mine to your attention:

I came across this today, a discussion about patriarchy by a feminist (named Clarissa). She’s discussing a post from another feminist (named Soraya) at Alternet.

Soraya believes that nasty, old, religious men hate and fear young women for some unspecified reason and instill patriarchy because of this fear.

She’s wrong in that the patriarchy is designed to oppress women; any control occurring over women in patriarchy is only incidental to patriarchy’s primary purpose of controlling men.

Clarissa notes the obvious, that the non-religious and women are just as interested in maintaining  patriarchy as the religious. She notes that the patriarchy “oppresses people who can’t or won’t conform to traditional gender roles.”

She’s more right. In a later post she clarifies what she means by patriarchy.

The patriarchy is a system of social relations where… people accept and enforce strict gender roles in order to perpetuate the system where men castrate themselves emotionally and psychologically in order to be able to purchase women and women castrate themselves sexually and professionally in order to be able to sell themselves.

She believes this to be a bad thing.

She’s right, in that patriarchy is designed to psychologically and emotionally castrate men, she’s wrong in that this is necessarily a bad thing.

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Let’s start at the beginning.

The male human is the single most ruthless, deadly, and dangerous predator ever brought forth by nature. A single male human is capable of wreaking terrifying damage. A group of male humans can execute almost unfathomable levels of destruction.

In addition to being capable of mass destruction, the male human is naturally inclined towards violence.

The male human is the apex predator.

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In addition to being a predator, the human male is also a creator, capable of building wonders beyond imagination.

The human male is also capable of extreme laziness and hedonism.

The average male, is  generally neutral in his inclination to his choice between hedonism, destruction, and creation.

Hedonism is easiest and is enjoyable, but scarcity makes it impossible but for those living in abundance and safety. Hedonism also does nothing to benefits society; rather it simply consumes resources.

Creation requires the most effort and is the least enjoyable (at least in the short-term), but it creates value for society and meaning for the male human.

Destruction is enjoyable and is easier than creation, but it does not create value, it either value and/or takes value from someone else.

Society requires males humans to engage in creation to advance, but out of the three creation requires the most effort out of the male and is (often) the least enjoyable.

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So, how does society encourage a male human to create?

There are really only three ways: force, access to resources, and sex/family.

Force is problematic. It requires other male humans to threaten this, so you have to encourage them to do so (so it doesn’t really solve the problem, only transfers it). It is also only moderately effective: a human male will usually counter with his own force when threatened and will often die before submitting, especially if the male has nothing to lose. Even if force works, an enslaved man will generally only work the bare minimum necessary to keep the threat at bay. The incentive structure for slaves is not set to maximize their creative potential.

Access to resources works, but only to a point and can be unreliable. Human males don’t require much to be happy: food, shelter, some entertainment (ie. destruction), and sex. He will create to get these basics, but attempting to bribe more creation out of him will likely be fruitless, he will often prefer his leisure to more resources. Also, if resources are withheld, he may simply respond with destruction to gain the resources.

The third option is sex/family. A male human will willingly create and undergo hardships he wouldn’t otherwise for the benefit of his mate and his children, and their futures. He will try to create (or destroy) to attain more resources than he would normally need or want simply to give to his family.

The third option is the only stable and reliable option where the majority of males will willingly create rather than engage in leisure or destruction. It is also the only option for society where the male doesn’t have a decent chance of responding with destruction.

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The problem with the third option is a male human can not know if a child is his or not. The human female knows exactly which children are hers and can invest in them secure in that knowledge, the male does not and can not.

The male will rarely create for the sake of children not his own and will often attempt to destroy those children not his own.

For the male to create, he needs reassurance that his children are his own.

Also, if sex is freely available to a male, there is no need for him to create to access sex.

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Hence, patriarchy.

Under patriarchy sexual access is highly controlled by social mores and/or force.

Because sex occurs only in marriage, the married male human knows that the children of his wife are his and his alone. He will then be induced to create as much as he can to provide for them and ensure their future.

Because sex is restricted solely to marriage, the male can not go outside marriage for sexual access, so he needs to create to win and provide for a wife.

These restrictions on males force the male into creation to gain sexual access.

The patriarchy castrates his destructive impulses. His desire to rape, his desire to murder, his desire to burn, his desire to loot, his desire to laze about in leisure, they are all controlled, because if the male engages in this behaviour he loses his ability to engage in sex and reproduce. He loses his future.

Monogamous patriarchy goes further: by restricting sexual access for each male to a single female and ensuring that all but the greatest losers have sexual access, it decreases the likelihood of violent competition for sexual access by lowering the stakes and ensures that each male will have a family and children, ensuring he is invested in the future.

The patriarchy is essential to controlling male humans’ destructive impulses.

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Isn’t castrating a male’s natural impulses under patriarchy wrong?

No, it is a necessary element of civilization. Marriage is the basis of civilization.

Civilization can not come into being without it.

Without this castration, society will either be chaos (as male humans fight for sexual access) or very primitive (think lost tribe in the jungle).

Everybody suffers.

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Any controlling of female humans in a patriarchal society is incidental. The controlling of women’s sexuality, by having social mores limiting her from having sex outside marriage, is a necessity for controlling males, but it is not the purpose of patriarchy. It is a by-product of controlling the males.

People who condemn the patriarchy are missing the bigger picture.

They live in a culture where the patriarchal castration of humans males is the norm and has been for millenia. They do not think outside it, so they see only the bad (the control) not the good.

They see only the castrated males, those males who have been inculcated for generations to create, not to destroy.

They assume all males are naturally like this. They do not realize that the mass castration of males through patriarchal mores has throughout history been what has suppressed their natural predatory instincts.

They react in horror when males engage in the violence that is natural to them. They seem to believe that this is somehow abnormal.

They do not realize that rape, murder, burning, looting, war, and violence are the norm.

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The breakdown of the patriarchy can have will lead the male to either hedonism or destruction:

1) Male disengagement: As males’ desire for sex can be accessed outside of patriarchal marriage, they will contribute less to society. They will let laziness take over.

As our current patriarchy is breaking down, we can see this occurring in our society in two inter-related movements: the child-man and MGTOW. The child-man and MGTOW realizes that sex can be gotten outside the patriarchy (or forgoes sex altogether) and has no family to create for, so he creates only enough to sustain himself. He no longer creates what society needs to advance. If these movements become big enough, they could significantly impact the society’s production and continued health.

2) Violence: As males’ become less engaged they may engage in violence either in rage, to obtain resources, or for entertainment.

This is unlikely to occur on mass scale anytime soon, although it might. The destruction of the patriarchy in the black community has resulted in high criminal rates. The rest of society could follow.

The prevalence of porn and video games will leave most males too sated in relation to both sex and destruction, for a number of males to have enough inclination to engage in socially and legally proscribed violence, which should prevent a mass movement towards male violence.

Incidences of violence from individual males can be expected. Notice how among the examples of violence I posted, the perpetrators were single. Anytime you see a mass murder, a terrorist act, etc., check the relationship status of the male perpetrator; he will almost always be single. Patriarchal marriage reduces a male’s inclinations to violence.

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Neither outcome is good for females.

Male disengagement means less resources for women, less resources for their children, less resources and progress for society as a whole, and a lack of fatherly involvement in their children with the attendant social problems.

Being less inclined to violence and less physically capable women are at the mercy of males should males decide to engage in violence.

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The patriarchy exists to control males; control of females is incidental.

The patriarchy is good for both females and males and for society as a whole.

12 comments

  1. Great post, but I have to differ with you on 2 points:
    Patriarchy does not limit male sexual choices, it only limits his off spring being recognized as legitimate. No patriarchy that I’m aware ever has ever said that men may only have sex with their wife. That idea is a puritan heresy. Instead Patriarchy treats bastard children like the garbage that they thus encountering women to get married and stay faithful to guarantee that their children are legitimate. Secondly the big hook for patriarchy with men is that every man who plays by the rules can have legitimate children and a faithful wife. Men like most mammals naturally work very hard for their children when they know that their children are their own. They don’t need an incentive beyond that.

    I keep coming to this blog saying that the christian community is sick and no patriarchy exists with in it. The reason I keep saying this is because Christians are not marrying their daughters off to single men with in the church. The church itself used to find brides for unmarried men and was very strict in sending away or excommunicating girls who slept around.

  2. Matriarchy produces both simps and thugs. Simps arise in areas of plenty like in the more middle class or upper class matriarchies while thugs arise from backgrounds of scarcity or poverty.

  3. Absolutely. This post is spot on.

    I look at this situation in Isla Vista as a combination of multiple factors but 3 primary reasons. #1) complete disassociation from the parental father figure and the absence of nuclear family involvement #2) the societal promotion of women’s collective exemption from patriarchal mores and standards #3) the societal imposition of patriarchal standards on males becoming amplified due to the rapid liberation of females from that same system.

    When you take a kid (who is clearly a psychotic from the get go) and throw him into a world without a strong father figure who can teach & guide him through this post-modern feminized country there are a few ways it’ll play out. Maybe he’ll retreat into himself and become a MGTOW believer and leave the world to rot as it is. Or…as it happened in this unfortunate case, he rebels against the world that rejects him. He resorts to the basic primary male directive….anger manifesting into destruction in the absence of leisure or creation. The kid had plenty of abundance, but no substance in life…so anger won that face-off. Creation at 22? Laughable to any young man at that age.

    He saw an American snapshot in Isla Vista where women were not held to the same standards that were expected of him. Due to his mental illness, he was rejected, ridiculed and isolated. The females in his life were free to carry on without regrets or limitations. The men they chose to find pleasure with were chosen at random and he was never among them.

    Eventually, the psychosis and isolation took over. The patriarchy that had set the rules for both sexes now only held him in check. At 22yrs old this powder-keg had enough to go off. I believe in his mind, as insane and misguided as it was, he manifested a justification for this destruction. He couldn’t find release in leisure, it’d merely be a temporary distraction. He saw the emptiness the promise of creation offered him. Invest your time, money & life in a woman who may or may not return the favor? Who may actually play you false and take everything from you with society’s approval?

    No. This psychotic’s only outlet, apart from video rants, was going to be a cathartic act of destruction. This will continue to happen. Why? Because society tries to rationalize this down to every reason they can concoct besides those reasons right in front of them.

    The NRA is to blame because guns were used. It’s the misogynistic culture of Hollywood. It’s the Santa Barbara PD’s fault for not kicking in his door weeks ago. And on and on…

    NO. You have a growing generation of disaffected male youths in this country who have no direction. No fathers to give them a compass and a culture that beats them over the head on a daily basis that they are the what’s wrong with the world. You toss in a damaged mind that is unstable on its own….it should not surprise anyone that it will seek to destroy rather than create or rest.

    And the beat goes on. In less than a month we’ll be onto the next tragedy, natural disaster, govt. sex scandal.

    Whatever.

  4. Just a quick question for ya, FN.

    Are you sure that ‘castrate’ is really the right word? You often (and quite correctly in my opinion for whatever that’s worth :-D ) encourage men to stop acting like blue-pill betas and act like Christian, masculine, patriarchal men. How does that compute with being ‘castrated’?

    ‘Castrated’ sounds like a scalzified ueber beta, and not a masculine being. Would you consider yourself, as a ‘civilized’ male who lives as per the rules of patriarchal civilization (even those rules are no longer externally in effect) to be ‘castrated’?

  5. @ lolz: Castration was the word the poster I was responding to used, so I just kept using it. It’s not a perfect word, but it gets the point across.

    A civilized man is, to a small extent and in a certain way, castrated. He’s not going around committing the excesses of masculinity: murdering everybody who insults his honor in the least way, entering the berserkergang on the regular, robbing and pillaging others, raping young women, etc.

  6. “M.G.T.O.W – Men Going Their Own Way – is a statement of self-ownership, where the modern man preserves and protects his own sovereignty above all else. It is the manifestation of one word: “No”. Ejecting silly preconceptions and cultural definitions of what a “man” is. Looking to no one else for social cues. Refusing to bow, serve and kneel for the opportunity to be treated like a disposable utility. And, living according to his own best interests in a world which would rather he didn’t.”

    A great many are already MGTOW, without even realizing.

  7. Red writes: “No patriarchy that I’m aware ever has ever said that men may only have sex with their wife. That idea is a puritan heresy.”

    Most all patriarchies have tolerated prostitution, but all of them have abhorred men who sleep with other men’s wives and tolerated (sometimes applauded) extrajudicial killing of such men. Law under the Puritans merely traded an existing tort for a crime.

    The pariah status of bastard children, and their mothers, in a patriarchy is necessary, as without it there is no penalty at all imposed against unfaithful women. Here patriarchy provides a merciful and civilizing influence; in a Hobbesian state of nature, men would be inclined to kill both the women who defrauded them and their bastard offspring too*.

    (*Funny how secular leftists, who are quick to justify e.g. homosexual acts as ‘natural’ based upon occasional rutting behavior in certain animals, do not similarly justify killing bastards even though it is normal for male lions to kill other males’ cubs.)

  8. FreeN – You’re a younger guy. How did you come up with this post on your own?

    If I was assembling the top 50 ‘sphere posts ever written, this would make the list.

    In fact, it is probably the only Christo-sphere post that would make it in the final list.
    Note: This does not include Vox Day, who I do not group with the Christo-Sphere, despite his Christian status. Nor GBFM, who is a one-man category unto himself. Lozl.

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